Thursday, March 16, 2017

here we go again...

Two years ago this happened.
My surgeon was amazing and did a great job on my broken leg.  You can hardly see the scar and it feels great, but I've complained about my right ankle ever since I fell.  I was told that it would heal after I was able to use my left leg again, then I was told to give it time, then I was told it was arthritis, then I tried losing weight.  Nothing was helping. Exercising is so hard because my ankle is so painful.  It's not like sore or like I imagine arthritis, but like pain that shouldn't be there.
Over the past 2 years the pain has gotten worse.  I avoid stairs, I walk slow and I just hurt...so much.  This winter as I was walking in the snow my ankle rolled a tiny bit....for a normal person it wouldn't have even affected them, but for me...it caused intense pain.  My ankle burned and I couldn't walk for a minute.
I found a foot/ankle specialist (Dr. Rigby) and he ordered an MRI.  It showed that my posterior tibial tendon has been torn for a long time.  He told me to get orthotics made to see if that would help.  Before that appointment I took a step and heard a pop and fell.  I called Dr. Rigby and he was in Texas at a conference.  He called me right back, told me to go to instacare and have an xray done to make sure no bones were broken and to get some pain meds.  He told me to wear a boot until surgery over spring break.
A week ago today I had surgery.
The tendon is the tendon that holds the arch of the foot up.  Since it's been weak for 2 years my bones have started moving and my arch has started falling.
The surgery which I thought was going to be a quick tendon repair ended up being foot reconstruction surgery

8 months non-weight bearing
1 year full recovery with Physical Therapy

SO excited to have this fixed!

Speech 3

I'm taking a public speaking class and I LOVE it...who would've thought?
My last speech was an informative speech and I chose to give it on Juvenile Rheumatoid Arthritis.

When we think about arthritis most of us think about old men hunched over, walking with canes or Grandma's who can't knit anymore because their hands are too crippled.
BUT, Did you know that over 30,000 children in the United States have been diagnosed with Juvenile Arthritis?
This is Hayden the day he was diagnosed with Juvenile Arthritis.
He was 3 years old.
Through my experiences the past 2 years and a little research I will tell you what JA is, the symtoms, the treatment and what life for these kids can be like.  Everyone's story is different, but I will share Hayden's.

 6 months before his diagnosis Hayden started complaining of pain.  He wanted me to squeeze his hands and feet as hard as I could because it was the only way he could get any sort of relief.  He quit dressing himself, feeding himself and playing with his toys.  He really was in so much pain.  The symptoms are pretty consistent.  About a week before any symptoms at all, most kids get a rash and fever.  Then a week later joints become red, hot, swollen and sore.  Kids also become sluggish and tired.

This is how those symptoms are treated:
Our pediatrician sent us to a rheumatologist in Salt Lake at Primary Children's.  She did a bunch of labs and then felt each of his joints.  She told me that the best way to treat this is to be agressive.
The medication is enough to be a speech all it's own, but the medications include biologics, chemotherapy, NSAIDS, steroids, and then there are also medications to offset the side effects of those medications.
The side effects aren't fun for these little people.
Nausea, vomiting, exhaustion, mouth sores and orneriness.
Some of the more severe side effects are liver/kidney damage and cancer.

The hardest side effect is the compromised immune system of these kids.
 Normal sicknesses require hospitalization or agressive treatment.  When disease is active life is difficult for these kiddos.  In school Hayden has a speech therapist, Occupational Therapist, and is in Life Skills.  A lot of accommodations are made for him.  If he can't sit on the rug he can sit on a chair, if that gets uncomfortable he can stand.  When it's cold outside or we are having a red air day he has to stay inside for recess.  When the arthritis is active he has special scissors, special pencils, and sometimes he can't even participate.  He knows his body and knows what limits to set each day.



Before Hayen started school we met with an Occupational Therapist and I was so excited to get some tips.  I was kind of hoping for a cure of some sort, but he gave me pracitcal advice.  He told me things to do when the disease is active to make life easier for Hayden.  We got these socks that have hooks so the kids can pull them up on their own, we got rid of pants with zippers, any clothing with snaps or buttons.


Our family life is affected as well.  Hayden's meds with the worst side effects are given on Fridays so we hang out at home on the weekends.  When the disease is active we skip out on trips anywhere that would make Hayden's joints sore.
Last summer we went to Bear Lake.  I thought it was going to be great.  Hayden was doing well and it was warm out.  Everyone was having a blast until Hayen got in the water and his joints froze. 
Life with this disease is very limiting, but remission is possible.
Remission is when there is no sign of disease in the joints, organs, or eyes for 6 months on meds and then slowly weaning off meds without any flare ups.

With the help of our amazing Dr, medications, therapists and teachers Hayden was able to play soccer last fall and just ran the 1 mile in the Jingle Bell Run which raises awareness for Juvenile Arthritis.
Arthritis isn't our grandparents disease!!!!!!

Sunday, March 13, 2016

Be Brave!

Utah Coalition Against Pornography Conference was yesterday in Salt Lake. 

It was hard to go. I want to leave this life in the past...the one that has anything to do with pornography, but I'm learning I can't ever do that. 

I'm raising 3 boys in this world, I work with the young women in my church, and I'm studying to become a teacher so... I will fight to keep the people I love safe from pornography or get them help they need to overcome the effects of pornography. 

PLEASE know that if you have viewed pornography you shouldn't feel shame or embarrassment!!! 

Tell someone you trust! Get help! 

 As parents we don't wonder IF our children will view porn, but WHEN! The statistics are scary! Our kids are being exposed to porn at about 9 years old AND they aren't being exposed to soft porn.  Soft porn doesn't exist anymore because we see it on TV, billboards, ads, etc.


 ANYWAY The Conference was great! 

The videos from the classes will be here soon.


Following are some of my favorite resources I found at the conference: 

The Facts 
found here and here

Porn sex vs. healthy sex (for young adults)


 found here 

 The Hazards of Porn


 found here 

 Net Cetera 
Chatting with Kids about Being Online

 7 Steps to Protect your Family 
download the steps here 

 This website has books that help parents talk to their kids about sex and pornography.
 I looked through each book and they are amazing. Every home should have these books! 

 This website gives information about how to prepare your kids to protect themselves from porn and how to heal if they have been exposed to porn or have a porn addiction

 This book is a must!!! 


 Help for those with addiction to porn:

Support For Betrayal Trauma 
WORTH group - free

 For teens
 FREE online recovery program: https://fortifyprogram.org/ 


Recovery for Young Men: Eternal Warriors 

Recovery for Young Women: Daughters of Light 

Divine Nature Value Project: Girl Power - FREE online class 

Especially for Young Women: Girls do it, too! 

Parent Support 

Wednesday, May 6, 2015

Patricia

April 3
My Grandma Reece passed away
When I was 16ish I got to spend a summer with her and my Grandpa.
It was a fun summer.  My grandparents took me to see places my dad had lived, worked, and attended school.  I got to see places that were significant to my grandparents and I got to spend time getting to know my grandparents.  My grandma took care of 8 kids and supported my Grandpa in whatever he did in life.  Then she took care of her mom who had alzheimers.  She spent her life serving others.


 My grandpa loved his sweetheart.  He spent the last 3 years taking care of her as she got really sick.  He took care of her every need.  He loves her and he testified that he knows he will be with her again.
 My Grandpa with all of his children
Grandpa with his children and their spouses

I miss you Grandma!
I am grateful for the Gospel of Jesus Christ and the knowledge I have that I can be with my family for eternity.

ski night

We went skiing with our ward (church group) on February 6th.
Tyler had been with school so he was off.
He was slow, but got faster with each run.
It was so much fun to watch him.

I was still on crutches and sat in the lodge watching everything.
My mom is amazing.  She took Dylan and got him set up with skis and a lesson.

The boys had a blast.  They had so much fun they didn't want to leave.  We were the last ones out.  
Thanks to the ward and to my mom for a fun night!!!

Friday, May 1, 2015

Arthritis

Arthritis isn't fun.
I never understood the reality of the pain
or how much weather affects a person with arthritis.
I never realized that the pain could be so bad that the person couldn't even move without crying.
I never thought it could affect a little person
and it makes me sad that my baby has to deal with this.

 We have had a lot of sleepless nights because of the pain.  It started with his hands and then one night he started complaining about his toes.  Then his ankles and now his knees.  He struggles with the pain because he can't find an owie.
 We've been to Occupational Therapy a few times.  He isn't able to put his socks on himself because he can't grasp his socks without his fingers hurting.  He can't do zippers or buttons on his pants.  So, we had to get rid of all his pants with zippers and buttons and snaps...he only has elastic waisted pants and shorts.  AND, we were saving for these socks that have hooks he can slip his fingers into and pull up himself.  Well, they were anonomysouly gifted to my baby.  I wish I could thank the person who sent them.  It gave him so much independence and accomplishment and now that his pain is more under control he is able to do regular socks as well, but goes to these when he has a bad day.
I'd also like to thank everyone who made and bought heat packs for us this winter....they were life savers for my baby!





We go to Salt Lake for clinic every 6 weeks.  His pediatric rheumatologist is amazing!  We love Dr. Sylvie and I am so grateful for her!  We are at clinic all day getting each joint checked, talking about meds and inflamation, and getting blood drawn.  Hayden does great!  We have a backpack full of toys and goodies that are just for clinic and we have a lot of fun!  Thanks to my sister, Kristin, for helping us get our backpack together!!



Meds.  Please, no comments about your beliefs about meds.  This is what we're doing for my baby to control his pain and decrease his inflamation.  Today he is down to 2 meds twice a day, 1 med 3 times a week, an injection once a week, and a chemo drug once a week.  AND, it helps the pain.  These meds give my baby a normal life.  Because of these meds he goes outside and plays football and baseball with his brothers, he jumps on the trampoline, rides his bike and is just a normal 4 year old boy.  I am grateful for these meds!

That is our life with arthritis.  Thank you to everyone for your love and support!

Monday, March 30, 2015

Fair

Tyler complains about things being fair constantly.  It is tiring and I hate hearing about it!  Every once in awhile Dylan complains as well.  But, it's mostly Tyler.  This last time was about apple juice and how unfair it is that Hayden gets apple juice when he takes his meds, but no one else gets apple juice.  I have my reasons for this and they've been explained to the boys.  I tried explaining it again when my mom interrupted and said,
"I just got home from a good friends funeral.  She was my age and she died.  Why didn't I get to die?  It's just not fair that she left her family and I didn't.  Why isn't life fair?"
She was using a whiney voice and did an excellent job making a point.  The boys both busted up laughing and realized that they were being ridiculous.
I hope this lesson sticks.  I don't know how they can't SEE that life isn't fair, but since they don't see it I hope they have learned it!